Oh hi.


I figured I’d have so much to say after we moved; telling stories of unpacking and choosing furniture, decorations, paint colors, and settling in. As it turns out, I have just gotten very, very quiet. I’m not sure how to break out of it, but I seem to be in a big rut. In a way, I don’t really feel like myself; I’m not taking too many photos, I haven’t written here, and I definitely haven’t done anything crafty since before we moved.

The house is good, to be sure, and we really do love it… but we really haven’t been unpacking very much. Our new commutes have been wearing on us, and have left us with very little energy for projects when we get home. We’ve been spending a lot of time on the couch. I can’t say it doesn’t bother me that we haven’t gotten more done… but in some areas, at least (like the living room and my new craft room), we’re waiting for furniture that will make it possible to unpack (namely a giant new desk for me, and a certain much-desired bookshelf from Ikea!). Still, I remember how fast we got settled at our last apartment, and it’s starting to really bother me that the box of hair products and under-the-bathroom-sink stuff still stares at me from the foot of our bed. Not to mention every single box of books (and we own a LOT of books).

Obviously, the transition to being homeowners is a big Life Event, and it isn’t an overnight process. And being out of said new house for 11 hours each day thanks to one’s new commute takes its own toll. So we’re still very much in the adjustment period. But it’s bugging me, and I’d much rather skip this and settle firmly into the Our New Home Yay phase.

I’m not quite sure how to kick my way out of this strange “who am I? where am I?” rut, but maybe starting small, with finding our Halloween decorations, and unpacking that goddamn bathroom sink box would be a good start.

6 thoughts on “Oh hi.

  1. Definitely give yourself more credit on this. You have the big event of buying the house, adjusting to that and all the things surrounding it (new commute, new area to explore, getting settled, etc, etc.). When we moved into our place I think we tried to get a box a day unpacked. Sometimes it happened, sometimes it didn’t, but at least we had that bar set so it was a reminder. Before we knew it, we were all unpacked AND we got rid of more stuff we didn’t use/need. You’ll get done with unpacking before you know it, then you can start worrying about a whole other set of things 🙂

  2. I think sometimes after a big move, you just have to let yourself sit for a bit. When we moved into our apartment I cried the day the movers brought all of our stuff in. I was surrounded by boxes and it just all seemed so overwhelming, despite having downsized from a house. We eventually got almost everything unpacked in about a month. We’d just work on a few boxes here and there. Hell, we still haven’t hung up all of our pictures and we’ve been here three months.

    You’ll get inspired one day and just get through it. Don’t rush yourself. You’ve got plenty of time to live there. 🙂

    • it IS all so overwhelming. i don’t know why it’s so different this time, having moved every two years since 2007. (well, duh, i’m married and a homeowner and this one is more permanent, theoretically, is what’s different). but i think taking it slow and steady is good.

  3. I just read this tonight too, and your post brought it to mind: http://adultingblog.com/post/64233659881
    Hugs! Sounds like a tough transition. Unpacking and setting up an entire house is a HUGE project–not surprising that you wouldn’t want to tackle that after a long day of work. Maybe you can pick one box a day and give yourself 20 minutes, between dinner and tv, or something? But it’s good to unwind and relax too, nothing wrong with some good couch time at the end of the day!

    We’ve been making sure to go on family ‘outings’ every weekend day–sometimes it’s fun like the pumpkin patch, and sometimes it’s to Trader Joe’s. 🙂 Maybe making some interesting plans (some unpacking related and some not) will help with the rut.

    Also, are you familiar with Unfuck Your Habitat? http://unfuckyourhabitat.tumblr.com/ Good for inspiration of moderate cleaning/tidying/unpacking (ie, no marathons).

    More hugs! 🙂

    • omg. that post helped SO MUCH. exactly that. i sort of stopped thinking of this as a life change, and it really is. and it feels like such a huge-er project because we have so much more space now, too. but i like the idea of setting a time limit, because 20 minutes doesn’t sound like “omg we’re going to unpack ALL NIGHT”. 🙂 (and unfuck your habitat is awesome! i love the idea of taking it in bite-sized chunks, rather than saying “saturday we will clean EVERYTHING”)

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